Didier,

You are really caught between a rock and a hard place. I think you have received excellent advice from the above posters. I really don't have anything to add, but I heartily second their advice. You need to step back for awhile and make your mom do it on her own, painful as that may be for you. It sounds like tough love is needed. I wish you the best and I hope this situation gets resolved soon.

Rosie

Was primary caregiver to my daughter Heather who had stage IV base of tongue SCC w/ primary recurrence. Original diagnosis August 21st, 2002. Primary recurrence March 18th, 2003. Died October 6th, 2003.