Been on both sides of the fence Jeepster, from the caregiver side it's absolutely no fun at all either. You've been given great advise, take at one afternoon or evening a week off and get together with friends, go shopping, lunch, something for YOU!... If you're mentally and physically worn out you can't do much as far as being a caregiver.

At this point, Don just probalby feels like hell, both physically and mentally. He's probably greiving for his "old life" and hasn't come to terms with things as how they are now. Be supportive, don't force, but let him know in a gentle way how you feel also.

On a differnt note with the popcorn, yes, its an American thing, have to have the popcorn with coke at the movie. Preferable with LOTS of butter or what ever they use for butter these days. The popcorn itself isn't fattening per se, but the butter is what does it.

Remembering about 6 years ago when the only place for foreigners here to live was the Silverland Hotel, and Wal-Martjust opened up here in Dongguan and lo and behold, they sold microwave popcorn. Another American and I bought several bags and took it back to the hotel bar and had the bartender microwave it up for us. The bar staff stood and watched, their eyes getting bigger than the bag as it expanded in the microwave, as they were sure it was going to explode! After it was done and we opened it, all gathered around and stared, turned out they had never seen popcorn, much less microwave popcorn some of the staff tried it, some were afraid of it!!

To two starved for western food American's you'd think we were eating gormet food. Things are much different now!!
Bob