Thanks to you all for your kind thoughts and messages, we thought about a second opinion but decided that the "team" looking after my husband were probably about the best that there are here, they seemed to have taken a lot of time and effort into my husbands treatment and previous surgerys and after reading about everything we believe that they are right, Palliative care over here is a sort of outpatient hospice, I am not really sure of the difference between the two. The cancer society here are really excellent, this weekend coming our family are going on a retreat for three days at a house that they run at a beach, will let you know how it goes, I have been looking forward to it.