thanks for the suggestions, I never thought about seeing if I qualify for a disability. Maybe when my pet scan comes back and they discover I'm truly empty headed I'll qualify, ha ha. Ya'll don't realize what a blessing you are to me right now. I'm getting lots of love from all directions. I did find a buyer for my part of my business, but I sure hate leaving my partner/sister with the mess of my leaving...it's one of those jobs when there will never be a right time & I'm following your advice about making this ME time. Unbelieveably my husband is about making this my time too. My 15 year old son will not even discuss my cancer, I figure he's still in a denial stage & will come around. He's spending his Saturday with good old Mom before I'm too sick from surgery. My 21 year old off a college doesn't have a clue other that that I do have a cancer diagnosis...she'll be suprised next time she sees me.