Michelle, I am caregiver to John[my husband] his 1st surgery was Apr 21st,05.Part of the floor of his nouth and tongue were removed and he had a bilateral neck dissection. Afterward he had 30 IMRT treatments, both sides, ending last July. He was beginning to improve until Nov. when he started having real difficulty again. It has turned out that the cancer is back. His 2nd surgery was Feb.9th of this yr. and chemo will begin shortly. He has a peg and all of his nutrition comes from it.John is 63 and is a very tough person [not a complainer], but this has been a really mindblowing battle. As a caregiver, I have to urge you again to find ways to take care of yourself. You won't be any good to your Mom if you are worn down. Amy