I hope his appointment goes well. I know how the negative thoughts creep in. We sometimes forget how those thoughts turn into outwardly visable changes. If you two have been toghther for a while you know what I mean. Our negative thoughts turn into our partners negative thoughts (or turn into anger or depression or whatever). I have said it here many times the hardest thing about cancer is staying on top of your mind. Whether patient or caregiver this is tough.

Please let us know how his checkup goes.

Mark, 21 Year survivor, SCC right tonsil, 3 nodes positive, one with extra-capsular spread. I never asked what stage (would have scared me anyway) Right side tonsillectomy, radical neck dissection right side, maximum radiation to both sides, no chemo, no PEG, age 40 when diagnosed.