Hi, Cindy.
Poor thing...this does get really ugly, doesn't it? Tom, too, became very depressed, VERY dependent, very 'resigned' to the misery. He has tinnitis going into the treatments, and although we have not had a follow-up hearing test, it is evident that the cisplatin affected his hearing. I, too, am increasing volume just to get noticed.
I could not get him to take an anti-depressant for very long - I think he expected it to make him feel 'all-better' immediately.
The good news is that things ARE better now.He is 5-months post rad/chemo and 4 months out of surgery - - -he's gained a little weight smile , his beard is growing back smile smile , his attitude is MUCH better and energy levels coming up. He is looking forward to the walk-a-thon Saturday and we are becoming happy again.
Keep a stiff upper lip, Cindy, and pray hard. It will get better.
Love
Nicki

Nicki, wife of Thomas
dx July 2004, SCC, Stage 4 Tonsil. Tx begun 8/4/04. Cisplatin/Xeloda x 4; IMRT 7 wks, 8/7 - 10/25/04 Modified Radical Dissection (right), Selective Dissection (Left) 12/10/04.