Hi Danielle,
I understand everything Gary and Karen are saying, what they say is great advice. My family worried silly about me always wanting my grandchildren around. I know that during my treatment I spent alot of time taking care of my 4 and 5 year old grandaughters and my own children that still live at home, ages 18, 13, 11, and just turned 10. I drove them to practices, went grocery shopping, cooked dinners, shoot, 7 days after I got out of the hospital I went to Regis Hair salon in the mall, in a wheelchair to see my 18 year old get her hair done for her prom.
I guess we all get through it in different ways, I was SO fortunate. Of course, until I found this board I thought I was the sickest person around during radiation!
I also bet that your mom wants to take care of your baby and that is where I understand her the most. No matter how poorly I would feel, if my 4 year old grandaughter, Shelby, came in the door I instantly felt better. Taking care of my children and grandchildren kept me feeling more normal and less out of control.
So, I would just watch and make sure your mom doesn't get over tired with it all. I would wager that taking care of her grandchild will give her energy.
Minnie

SCC Left Mandible. Jaw replaced with bone from leg. Neck disection, 37 radiation treatments. Recurrence 8-28-07, stage 2, tongue. One third of tongue removed 10-4-07. 5-23-08 chemo started for tumor behind swallowing passage, Our good friend and much loved OCF member Minnie has been lost to the disease (RIP 10-29-08). We will all miss her greatly.