Pharmgirl, Bottom line is if he has Stage IV cancer, radiation with chemo is the only good option.

It's no fun at all and is hard hard hard on caregivers because it is a lot of long drawn out suffering compared to surgery and the recovery can take a long long time.

But. It's the only option that really gives him a chance of beating this disease. All the long term side effects that this can cause are better than the alternative (and I say this as someone who is suffering from several of them). Muster all the support you can for both yourself and him an prepare for a serious battle.

Nelie