The pain was the worst for my husband two to three weeks after. That is unacceptable and I would tell them that you have educated yourself and that you are aware that this is the time he will need it most. Is this his RO or MO that is refusing you? My husbands RO and MO were always so concerned with the pain management and made sure he did not have to suffer anymore than he had to. Even with the proper pain relief it is misery...do not take no for an answer.