Sue, I know exactly how you and your dad feel about that "Are you a smoker" question. I felt just like you - wanted to make a sign for my husband that said "NON-SMOKER". Often times, the quesiton was asked with a bit of an attitude. I really think that it makes people feel better to see somebody going through the horrific experience and to be able to say to themselves, "Well, that won't be me because I don't engage in those risky behaviors."

Best to you and your dad.
Anita