Jennifer, I didn't have the jaw split but I have seen and heard from many that have. Just like the radical dissection, it sounds much worse than it is. The thought of any surgery can be a fright. For God's sake don't go looking at pictures on the web! Leave that to the doctors. Practice the one day at a time thing and if that is too much go for one minute at a time.

As far as young children are concerned, I agree that the truth is always in order...but not necessarily all the truth at once. Kids are perceptive and will know by "reading" the other family members as to how serious this is now or gets later. As of now I would suggest that any comments about mortality be saved for later unless the child asks. You are not dead, and in fact you have a very good chance for recovery. Children have a different concept of this subject than we adults. Often their reactions will be different than you might expect or prepare for.

On a seperate but important subject, be sure you have financial and estate documents in order. Many states have laws about how property is split if there is no will. You will sleep better if you and your husband see an attorney and get a will for both of you and perhaps trust documents on behalf of your children, as well as personal medical directives. These documents should always be up to date but especially when children are involved. This should not cost more than $200 to $400 dollars.

I DO NOT suggest this because of your cancer!

This is something that all parents should do. My wife and I put these things off for years until just a few days before my surgery. When our attorney explained the laws of our state I was really mad that we had waited so long.

Take care