Angela,
I was about to post another topic and read your situation....my god, what was I thinking when I wanted to complain about some pain that I'm managing to deal with, anyway?
My heart goes out to you and your Mom in this stressful time, and I know that you are doing the right thing by letting her make her own decisions and posting here with your frustrations and pain. You'll find advice, experience, help, and most of all, love here to help you through.
It's really been instrumental to my situation, as my family has become a bit distant and I've lost contact with a couple of good old friends when I try to explain what it's like. Most people, understandably, don't want to think about so much pain and hardship happening to people they know and love.
These folks on this board have been there and done that and lived to tell the tale; and there's incredible strength in sharing with others that are about to go down a similar path.
Hang in there and I'm sure you'll be able to help someone else who needs you.
Gordon