Hi Mandi, The tone of your messages sounds like you have a lot of fear and confusion going on right now - and I know how you feel. I am also a caregiver to my husband who has stage III/IV scc at the base of the tongue. He has had radiaton, chemo and just as of 2/6/03 - the modified radical neck dissection surgery. He is having quite a few problems from the surgery - mostly stiffness and swelling from the procedure. There are definitely some days that are awful for him - following all that he has been through with the radiation and chemo. All I can really tell you is to remain strong. There is always hope - even when things seem like they are really bad - have courage....things can and often do turnaround to the better when you least expect it! In other words - see what they doctors have to say, talk things over with your husband and other family members, ask plenty of questions, look into all other options - even experimental treatments, if necessary. But don't underestimate what chemo and radiation can do - these are very powerful treatments and can work wonders. Let us know what else you find out and keep us posted. Good luck!