cancer4,

Joanna has given you some great advise about massage. I never knew about it until the physical therapist explained to me. But the reason I was at the therapist is the reason I am posting this.
You mentioned pain in your jaw? Can you open your mouth like you used to? I had pain and couldn't open my mouth. I have trismus - a form of lockjaw...there is information on this site about it. It is caused by radiation.
There are physical therapist that specialize in TMJ, they are ususally familiar with trismas, the treatment is similar.

Take care,
Dinah