Hi NYC Girl.

I'm so so sorry that this is happenening. It just doesn't seem fair or right at all.I know its devastating.

so I had a total glossectomy and my speech isn't great- and expressing myself verbally succinctly is something I miss desperately sometimes. I just thank my lucky stars that I was able to have the surgery- as horrible and rough as the recovery was it feels GREAT to be alive and healthy and cancer free with the possibility of living a long long time now.... You will find ways to communicate and to compensate for his speech. Husbands and wives and families have a secret language all thier own. Its going to be a big adjustment and you will grieve and be very sad over the loss of speech but if it can clear him of cancer and let him live and be able to be with you for lots longer I think you have to do it. you will cope and adjust and find peace and happiness again.

Love Miss kate