Thank you for your posts! You are so thoughtful to reply. I suppose in my inital osting I rambled trying to get all down in as little time as I could.
DH was diagnosised by biopsy at end of June, surgery begining of September, delay our doing as we really wanted to explore all options, salvage, jaw and teeth removal, neck dissection, removal of lymph nodes and tonsil seemed so dire when we knew so much. We start 35 radio treatments on Monday at the same time DH admitted as inpatient for 1st of 6 chemo sessions, 3 now and 3 towads the end of his radio. Afraid I don't know the names of these, will find out on Monday. I have read with intrest about reoccurance and am aware of the likely hood in our case. DH has been a smoker for about 20 years and though it shames me to say it, he has returned to this habit only weeks after his surgery. I am frustrated by this but accept that he is entitled to make his own choices in life. I pound these keys looking for answers and have discovered that no one has one, I amazed at how little information I can find about this cancer and horified at the quantity of people so desperately trying to make sense of this all. At the moment I am in an animated limbo and could do with all the help and support i can get, thanks for listening!