My best friend was diagnosed with oral cancer last August(2006). She was supposed to be in my wedding on September 9th, but instead she had to have half of her tounge removed the day before the wedding. After that she underwent both radiation and chemo. She was done with her treatments just after Thanksgiving. Since then she has lost so much weight and slowly withdrawn herself from the world. All of her friends and family have been there for her and have been trying to lift her spirits.

On Friday January 9th, 2007 she found out that it was back. Now the cancer is on the back of her tounge and has spread to the back of her throat and is headed up towards the nasal passage. The doctors say there is too much to operate and the only option is Chemo.

I need some advice. I have read so many posts on here, but PLEASE tell me that some of you out there have survived this type of recurrent cancer. I need to give her some hope. Are there any promising chemo drugs out there right now? She is at University Hospital in Minnesota. I believe that she can beat this, but she wants to know what the odds are. I told her that it didn't matter, because she was going to survive and make the odds better. But all the stuff I read about trials of chemo drugs measures their success in "months of survival." What a bunch of crap. Please help. What can I tell her to make her believe she will win?