Tammy, welcome! You've come to the best place!
You must still be in shock, and and as I'm sure people here will tell you, your journey has 'only just begun' and there are hard times ahead.

BUT!

Read the wonderful support/advice posts from people in exactly in your position, encourage your family to read too. You have a caring family, you have got the surgery out of the way, so you are already 'on the way to recovery' which is marvellous, and keep that thought close to you when times get tough over the next few months.
We're all here to help you and there are many knowlageable people here who will advise you the benefit of their experiences and help you realise you are not alone in this.
Take care Tammy, Brenda

Brenda in UK--Diagnosis 30/5/07--undifferentiated carcinoma in right jawbone and muscles. Stage 4
6/7/07--new diagnosis primary is in lung. Finished 4cycles of palliative carboplatin/gemcitabine
therapy September 07
Now dying to live!