I just found this site today while searching the internet for anything information to help me. Fight my fear give me strength. You are in shocked when your are given the DX. I was in surgery within a week of my DX. which was on Oct 17th 2007. I came out of my very well. 1/4 of my tongue and 14 lymph nodes were taken. But 5 of the 14 nodes were positive and 1 was stage 4. At this time I am able to talk and eat and a scar on the side of my neck. But, it has only just begun. I am 43 non smoker with a loving and caring husband. My son is 22 and lives on his own. I start my Chemo and Radiation in Mid November after I heal from my surgery. I am waiting to hear on my dental issues. I have had dental problems all my life so I think next week I will lose all my teeth. How do you and your family get through this ???