Hi Wife! Welcome to OCF...you'll find many answers and much comfort here...
Sorry I can't advise you in this situation, but I'm sure you'll get many responses from those with similiar experiences.
Keep us posted on your hubby's progress; My sweetie had bi ND on 07/19, so maybe we'll learn something from you two!

CG to 77 y/o hubby;SCC Alveolar Ridge; Wake Forest Baptist Hosp surgery: 07/19/07; bi mod radical resection/jaw replacement;
T2 N2-B M0 Stage IV-A
28 IMRT +
6 Paclitaxel/Carboplatin
Getting stronger every day!