DEar M61, the best help you can be is to be there when he needs something - or just be with him. You can't fix this, but you can share his last months with him. Will Hospice be involved in his care? If so, learn what you can from them, if not- it would be good for you to talk to some Hospice nurses and get some guidelines from them. They are well trained in death and dying. It would also be helpful to get some understanding of the medications he is on and what is expected by his Docs as he goes forward. This will take guts on your part. The more you understand about the process, the less useless and more helpful you will be. Amy in the Ozarks