I agree with Carol that you should talk to your doctor about getting something to help you cope with this. My husband is a stage IV and doing very well 17 months post diagnosis. Don't let the statistics scare you, people are not statistics.

I was a Daddy's girl so I understand where you are coming from. When my father fell down a flight of stairs and became a ventilator dependent quadrapligic I didn't think I could cope with the horror of it. Well he lived for 5 1/2 years before he died. Guess what we all adapted to the altered state.

Because your Mom died doesn't mean your father will. So much depends on how he responds to treatment. Don't get ahead of the information that you have at any given point in time. Let us know how he is doing.

Regards JoAnne