Dear Michelle,

I, too, am so sorry for your loss and for Breanna's as well. I lost my mother to cancer when I was only 3, so I have experienced things from her stand point. My first bit of "advice" to you is to be sure she understands that it wasn't her fault. As silly as that may sound, kids, especially young ones, believe the world revolves around them. I believed for a very long time that my mother's death was somehow my fault. And, be sure to talk to her about her mother. My family didn't want to talk about my mother in front of me for fear of upsetting me. But that's all I wanted, to hear about her. As I got older, I started asking more and more questions and eventually they started talking again and realized that I needed that to help me go through the grieving process. I hope you will find some comfort in knowing that you still have a piece of your sister with you, in her daughter. It just doesn't seem fair to be left behind, but as Dee has said, we are left here to carry on the fight. I pray God will comfort you and carry you through this dark time in your life. Time does help the pain and it gets more bareable as time passes. Try to remember the good times with your sister and focus on them. I hope my rambling is of some help and comfort to you. Penny