Katie,

Do not ever feel like you are being a pain or crazy or anything else. We have all been there and you are asking becuase you don't know the answer. Colleen is right, Gary is a great source of information and support ( I think we are all great support) but some of dont have as much knowledge. 1st and foremost though is to go to a Dr who can diag your problems whether it be Oral cancer or somthing else..We all hope that you do not have to continue in this group for the reason of being Diag with the disease , But if you are , you will have the biggest support group, you will hear from a bunch of people you have never met and will touch your heart in ways you never thought possible from words on a screen. They will encourage you and Scold you(LOL) They are brutally honest when need be , and I for 1 wouldnt have it any other way . They will be here every step of your journey if you want them to. So AS much as I have told you about these amzingly wonderful people..we still hope for the best for you and that you dont have to stay a memeber of the group " Nobody really wants to belong to". I know many of us except private messages, emails and even phone calls ! So you can ask and we are here . But 1st things 1st ...your Diag . One step at a time one day at a time and all things are possible.