I'm glad you found us. You're in for a battle, there's no way of sugar-coating that part. You aren't alone though. Everyone here will help with advice, experience, and empathy. A couple of suggestions while you're waiting for your first scans..take a deep breath.
Write down all of the questions that you have, as they occur to you. If they get too numerous, send them to your Doctor in advance by fax so he has time to absorb them and offer answers.
Take another deep breath. Repeat.
This is serious, and oral cancer is dangerous. fighting it successfully is "doable".
It is "win-able" and we're all here to help
Let us kow how the scans go
Wayne