Hello, Sue. First off- tears, tamtrums, whatever relieves the pressure are O.K. Since you've been researching, I won't repeat "stuff" you may have already read. However, when you have specific questions about Erbitux[ my husband has been on it since last July] or IMRT, there are many here who can respond to you. You are going through a very tough time and we all hope you can stay strong. Do you have a good support system in place? Amy