Jennifer, I suspect every caregiver, especially those who are close family, will admit to having been in the same circumstance. Mike's wife explained it very well. I know that pain, drugs, fear and losing control of your life can push an ill person to the limit of emotional control. As a caregiver, you have to be very strong and emotionally centered to deal with this- it's not easy, but it is doable. What can you do to help her? Learn to listen quickly to what is happening at a particular time- ie- is she in pain? Is she experiencing a new side effect? Did something go really wrong with her day? You might try to get her to talk about how she is feeling [altho that might be very emotional for you] I know this is hard on you because Moms are supposed to comfort their kids- not the other way around. You are gonna need to be very grown up while she deals with this. Amy


CGtoJohn:SCC Flr of Mouth.Dx 3\05. Surg.4\05.T3NOMO.IMRTx30. Recur Dx 1\06.Surg 2\06. Chemo: 4 Cycles of Carbo\Taxol:on Erbitux for 7 mo. Lost our battle 2-23-07- But not the will to fight this disease

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