Carol - Welcome to the forum. You and Al must be feeling pretty overwhelmed right now. This is a wonderful web site to get good information and lots of support.

It is my observation that the guys (patients) who let their wives do most of the 'work' with the docs and information - don't do as well. It is my belief that the patient must be REALLY involved with learning, asking, reading and advocating. The tough, stoic, passive guys suffer more in my opinion. Getting involved, being proactive helps in many ways - not the least of which is literally less suffering. So don't 'rescue' him - get and keep him involved too. When the stunned wears off, he'll be ready to get in there. Get him on this site - let us talk to him. We can help. There are quite a number of old, tough guys here. Be strong. Tom