Hi All,

This is my first post..I hope that I am doing it right. First, j wish I found this community when my father was first diagnosed. I’ve spent the last few hours reading through so many threads and am so thankful for so many of you sharing your journeys.

My father is 7 weeks out from treatment. He was doing really well weeks 1 and 2 post radiation and chemo (no surgery), but every week, the road to recovery seems tougher and tougher.

Prior to treatment, he was in incredible pain. My father is a tough man who throughout my life has never really show any emotion. Watching him cry out in pain was the toughest thing I’ve endured. The pain was significantly better around week 2-3 of treatment...we even went down to just one type of pain medicine as needed.

He has done great with nutrition, is diligent about using his feeding tube, and is even gaining weight but the pain levels in one particular part of his jaw are increasing daily. We visited the MO, RO, and ENT 2 weeks ago and all said he was healing really well despite the pain (which they said was normal). The MO placed him on morphine again which helped for a few days, but the pain is back with a vengeance.

I try to ask extremely specific questions regarding his pain and pain levels as I’m also his translator/medical coordinator. Swallowing liquids is uncomfortable, but no longer painful like it was pre-treatment and during the first few weeks of treatment. From what I’ve gathered, it sounds like nerve damage or something pressing on a nerve along his jaw.

This is our second cancer (he is a colon cancer survivor as well) and I have great trust in his team. Along with their knowledge, I feel they truly understand my father as a person. Although he is on morphine, I’m hesitant for him to move to stronger opioids. I can’t stand to see him in pain, but given his depression and precious alcohol dependence (self medication), I‘d rather get to the root cause of the pain vs. keep masking it with pain medication. Am I being reasonable? There has to be some type of reason for the pain....

Are there questions I may not think to ask his medical team?

Anyone else with this type of pain?

Our post treatment PET scan is not for 5 more weeks. The doctors offered to do it earlier if he really wanted to, but he said no as he has a clear understanding that radiation and chemo need time to work and his doctors all say he is healing well...I am calling his team in the morning to discuss pain management and welcome any feedback.

Thank you all again for sharing your stories.