I live with Mr. Denial. He doesn't think his lifestyle of drinking, smoking, chewing had anything to do with his Stage 4 BOT cancer. No amount of info would convince him otherwise. Denial. I just let mine live in that world. Reality might have to smack him a few times before he believes it.

sorry you have to deal with this. I know it too well. Hugs.

Spouse of 58 yr old with BOT cancer
Stage 4a HPV16 positive
3 chemo treatments cisplantin
35 radiation treatments 7000 cGy
former smoker/chewed tobacco for 38 yrs.
1/2020 diagnosed with cancer near TMJ
4/2020 chemo 5 days every 2 weeks
6/2020 proton therapy
9/21/2020 cancer free