Thanks again everyone for all the information and the kind words everyone.
I am trying to be real strong for both my mom and dad. I know this is hard for my father.
My mom is a very strong and positive person. It's amazing to see how strong she is.
I have a husband and a 5yr old little boy who need me also. I took my little boy to go see grandma because he asks about her all the time.
My mom was helping me with getting my little guy on the bus 2 days a week so I could go into work.
Since this all happened grandma is not able to come over. So he asks alot of questions.
He is my strength. I never realized how much you can love a person until I had him. It's amazing.

Anyhow I go see my mom 2 times a day. I change her dressing on her leg (the graft site).
She is just still only able to take in liquids for now. She seem to have alot of mucus in her mouth. I looked at her tongue and noticed that she has a coating on it. I think it's from the boost and drinkable yogerts. The dr. said not to use a tooth brush, just rinse mouth with warm water for now. I got some of the toothetes(the spongy sticks) for her to use to help clean inside her mouth.
Any suggestions on what she can use to keep her mouth clean while she is healing and the graft takes. I took the (spongy stick) and wiped the top of her tongue off and some came off, but she has a hard time doing it herself.
I have a question for you Jerry. I see that you had a neck dissection. Was this your choice or did something show up on a CT scan.
My mom's CT scan was normal and the dr. said he did not want to take any lymph nodes out because the radiation would take care of it. Any the other reason was because of her age being 70.
I was also wondering why you did not have radiation? I am so glad you are doing well.

Thanks Cathy and Bill for your reply.
I plan on reading your story today.
Yes I am an RN. I do see alot and sometimes that scares me more than anything. I love my job. I love to help people and take care of them.
But when someone in your family is facing cancer, it puts you on the other side of things.
Take care everyone. Michelle