The neck scar may not be a bad one. I had the neck dissection on one side (what a dreadful name for a surgery, right?) and my ENT surgeon did such a good job you can't even see the line from it at all. If I didn't know it was there, I'm not sure *I* could find it, some days. It looks just like any other wrinkle line or crease ... very faint. One thing they did NOT tell me before that surgery, though, was that I'd lose a salivary gland as a part of the process. (Or if they did tell me, it got glossed over.) It leads to pretty bad dry mouth, which is rough enough with all the other surgeries and treatments. So if this is part of what they do for your husband, make sure they tell you if that was in the surgery. (It wasn't because it had cancer, it was just in the way, I gather.) Then you'll be better prepared to assist your husband with dry mouth issues, which I imagine would be even harder with his particular oral surgery.

((hugs)) You got this!