Hi Deb !!

You are undoubtedly one brave guy !

Late for the post! Wish I could have been of help to u !

Hope your surgery went well .. and you are doing fine.. as everyone has rightly said, i agree it would be a hard time, but u will come out of it stronger definitely!

I know this "why me" question pops up in our heads all the time, but it's time to face the challenges and believe me, this ordeal would all be over soon, it's just a phase in life..

My father was operated last year for oral cancer and things are slowly starting to fall in place now, though not completely. He also has a history of depression and it made him all the more emotionally devastated , coping up with the "why me" phase, pain, the drains, the nasogastric tube Feeds , the Iv site swellings and the facial appearance, to name a few. I am a pediatrician myself, and that's the time i actually realised what a disease as big as this means to a family and what the fear of losing your loved ones is.

I wish you a quick recovery, remember this, when things get tough, the tough gets going !!

And if you have time, you can go through this book called 'secret' by Rhonda Bryne ..I am sure it will be of help to you in the coming days .and you will shine through, as a stronger person ..

All the best!!