Im very sorry you read about this update. I had hoped the node was nothing serious, especially since treatments just ended. Since rads continue to work well after the treatments stop is it possible there is still time for the node to have the cancer eliminated? I guess probably not since the doc wants surgery right away.

Is the surgeon doing a neck dissection? Many of us (including me) have had this done. One of the side effects most of us have is trouble raising the arm on the side of the surgery and a slightly limited range of motion in turning our heads or with things like putting a jacket on. Ask the doc about PT and how soon that can start. From what Ive learned here from other patients, the quicker a patient does PT the better range of motion they have.

Best wishes to you both!