DMB, I completely understand your point of view. I had similar feelings but being a single mother with 2 teenagers depending on me made it one hard decision. I almost refused my mandibulectomy in 2009 but the members of this forum convinced me I couldnt quit before I at least tried to beat the cancer. I was 46 when my doc told me to get my affairs in order. Looking back on how my life since then has been I cant say I made the wrong choice. I was so tired of being sick and going thru so much that I felt enough is enough and I would just let nature take its course. My main concern in my decision to not get treated was my children. I felt I could better prepare them for my passing if I was able to explain it slowly over weeks instead of dying suddenly during the surgery. Every single day is a gift. Im so thankful that the kind members of this group thought enough of me to speak up. My life is a very good one since the mandibulectomy. Ive been here to see my oldest child get married and my youngest child have 2 babies of their own. Being a grandmother is the best thing in the world!!! If you are weighing out your options, please reconsider and do as I did. Dont quit before you try to beat cancer. I know its not easy but please put all your best efforts into it before you give up.

No matter what you choose we will always support your decision.