Thank you all so much. I am so releived that I have found this site. I sat in front of my computer crying, reading your responses because I have been trying so hard to be brave for my mum, and my family. I don't know if I can express my appreciation, so thanks. My mum will be treated at the Peabody Cancer Center which is connected to Dana/Farber, her radiology oncologist is the head of the department, specializing in treating head and neck cancers. I only know this because I am a research junkie, and have been doing the only thing that I can do right now, research. The ENT guy has said that surgery is not an opton, that the tumor is embedded in the root of her tongue and would require complete removal of her tongue (which totally freaked her out!) The treatment course will be radiation and chemo...she has reluctantly agreed to a feeding tube(when it gets bad enough(!?!?). This is actually the first time that I'm saying all these out loud, so thank you for listening. Over the next couple of weeks we'll know more and I think that will help. Just having a plan.

Thank you all again, it really helps to know that I'm not alone.

Sam