I'm glad you responded, Heidi, and hope it has given you a little bit of relief to talk about it. I believe it is better to know what happens instead of having it shrouded in mystery.

I hope you are getting lots of support right now. Not only do you have the grief but also the exhaustion after months of fighting for your mother. I send you supportive thoughts from all the way down here in New Zealand.

Take care of yourself.
Maureen



1996, ovarian cancer surgery + cisplatin and taxol.
September, 2007, SCC of left lateral tongue. Excision.
October, 2009 recurrence in scar tissue, T1NOMO. Free flap surgery from left wrist - neck dissection. 63 year old New Zealander. No chemo, no RT.
February, 2014. New primary in left buccal mucosa. Marginal mandibulectomy, neck dissection, right arm free forearm flap. T1N0M0 but third occurrence and some areas of concern: RT started 8 April and finished 19 May.