Its a pretty good crew we have here isn't it? I'm always impressed with the way OCF responds.

My wife had a difficult patient to care for too. Frustrated, grumpy, wouldn't eat, drink, take meds on time, etc etc. Drove her to what the doctor referred to as "emotional exhaustion" which I don't think is a huge jump from the "depressive episode" my psychiatrist diagnosed with me.

My wife's doctor did the right thing, start with the simple, easy fixes and see how they go. He asked her what made her happy before all this. She listed off a few things like going to the gym etc, and he said "go do that!" It didn't fix everything, but it did break the cycle she was in and put her head in a different space.

I'm very pleased to hear you are getting some counselling for yourself. I'd also suggest seeing a doctor to check you over physically, things like blood pressure etc, just to give you the peace of mind that you are taking care of yourself. Fluids up, eating and sleeping well, all that. Your husband's recovery takes a very long time as you know, and keeping yourself fit mentally and physically is very important.

Like they say in the aircraft, make sure you fit your own oxygen mask first before you help others.