Hello Elyse,

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First I would tell him he has had MAJOR surgery and forget about getting back to work so soon. His mindset should be on healing and beating this horrible diaease.
I also had a stage 4 tonsil tumor that required a 17 hour operation and the same pectoral flap he had. Followed by radiation (IMRT) and 16 months of chemo. I am two and 1/2 years out and still have some quality of life issues. It will be diffucult for him to realize that he may never go back to his old life. Many of us have to get used to our new life. It's part of the territory I guess.

I'm sorry he had to go thru so many surgerys and lose his lower right jaw. I am hoping the doctors can find him a soloution that will bring about type of new life that he can enjoy.

All my Best, Danny Boy