Thank you all for your good thoughts and support. Much appreciated. As much as I would like for her to try longer and work with the treatment, I can also well understand how hard she has fought and how tired she is of fighting.

When she had her first bout with the Oral cancer she lived in another state, and we had several crisis of our own to deal with (life and death stuff with our son). She had to cope alone, and though she did amazingly well with it, it really did tire her out. 3 yrs later when diagnosed with the esophageal, we had her move in with us for treatment, and learned more about the treatment they gave her for the oral. Apparently she never NEVER saw an oncologist for that... surgery only and no consults of any kind with onco. We were flabbergasted. And learning more about what the dental crew put her through with the implants and everything... it was truly ridiculous from our perspective.

I am thankful she is now here with us so that no matter what SHE decides to do, we can make sure she gets the best of care. We have a really good cancer care center, all under one roof (had she remained in California her care was to be at 3 different places, and she cannot drive so had to take taxi's everywhere). Here she can get care 5 minutes from our house, so less transportation needed and I can continue to take care of her AND my special needs son (we homeschool both my boys partially so that we can arrange schedules to meet our needs).

Anyway... I just wanted to thank you again for the support and welcome. Lots of things to weight out, and no matter what she decides, we will be there for her all the way.

Heidi