Betsy,

I had a simialr experienc with diagnosis. My current surgeion seemed to think he only had to talke out a small piece of bone and a couple of teeth followed by a skin graft(mny 7th) I wnet to another surgeion known for being more aggressinve but I had no idea what that meant. I found myself being told that I need a Modifed radical neck dissection, jaw resection and he is taking th floor of the mough since the scc is on both sides. Nothing has been said about radaition after but they are alwo talking trach and feeding tube for me. I was so upset with the diagnosis I too couoldm't come up with the questions I needed to ask. You had been through alot and the cancer keeps coming back. That too is my fear about the quality of life. Ihave been assured by othes that you will get through this after all what is the alternative? My fear too is that if I go through all of the pain that the cancer is going to come back. we have all been though so much I don't think I could take it if it came back. If you Dr. feels this is the best way to get rid of the cancer for good than I guess I would go for it. Ask someone who has been through this maybe a patient of the Dr. you saw and talk to them. You have to set in your mind when enough is enough. I wish you luck.I am still looking for another socotr for another objective opionion but htey want to do my surgery in a month. Best of luck.