Friends and family surprise you when something like this happens. Some people step up, some people fade into the background. Notably smokers, all my smoking friends suddenly faded into the background, probably understandable.

The people who step up to help are a Godsend. You see when you are sick people arent sure when to ring, when is a good time, you might be sleeping. So no one rings, and no one visits. Except for the few. Kudos for being one of the few.

Radiation and chemo I didn't think was normal straight after surgery. I may be wrong, I didn't have surgery. Do you know anything about the staging and the treatment? If you can add a signature it would give us more of an idea what he'll need to go through.