My husband finished treatment about 5 weeks ago. I felt terribly guilty eating at first and found myself hiding in other rooms to eat when he couldn't see me. Sometimes I'd skip meals so that I wouldn't have to eat in front of him. In the long run I realized this wasn't going to work, and that he would not want me to get run down or sick because he was sick and could not eat. It's horrible having to see those we love suffer. It's also hard when they get upset and express their pain. However, it's good that he is expressing his pain, and just know that all you have to do is let him know you hear him and how much you care about him. He may find it hard to see you eat at times, but he also cares about you and wants you to be well in the long run. Most importantly, know that this will all pass. Take good care of yourself. He is lucky to have such an empathic and caring sister!


Spouse/caregiver to my husband:
Age 48 @ diagnosis
HPV+ SCC Stage IV diagnosed 1/14
Primary site unknown
Met to neck lymph node; 2" tumor resected 2/13/14
Completed 7 Cisplatin weekly sessions and 35 daily IMRT sessions 5/6/14
PET scan clear 11/14
CT clear 10/15
CT clear 10/16