Paul,
I am sorry for news. But as others have said, you can beat this! Go back and read the survivor stories, thats what I did when my friend Rod got sick.It really does help to see the positive. He was diagnosed with stage 4b.Left tonsil and 8 lymph nodes on the left and 1 on the right. Sounds pretty grim, huh?Well tom. July 12 is one year since treatment ended. He is doing very well! He did not have surgery just concurrent chemo & radiation. He did have the feeding tube but I think it saved his life. He is very small framed about 145 before tx, he was 114 at the end of treatment.Get the feeding tube if you don't have alot of extra cushion. His after tx issues, he is still dealing with are dry mouth(get something to protect your salivary glands!!!) and weight gain. He is up to 126 and holding. But he is working on that!You can do this!!! Like someone else here said, hit it hard! Its a long road and isn't fun but you can beat it! I wisH I could help you with your job issues but unfortunately I can't, maybe someone else on the boards can! Keep your chin up, we are all here for you!God bless! Maureen