[quote=donfoo]What you are experiencing is very common. Do seek counseling or see a psychiatrist and get some meds for anxiety.

You can also ask yourself how you are spending that time worrying and if there are ways to be spending that time that is more pleasurable and comforting.

That almost sounds so stupid but this is where you will your mind to a better place, knowing the worrying and anxiety place is not so good. Easier said than done but find a couple things that really engage you that you can focus your energy to while feel bummed out. Good luck. Don[/quote]

What donfoo said! Monitor your thoughts and attitude, and when you find yourself starting down a negative path in your thoughts, (and you may think this sounds silly, but it works) speak sharply (in your mind) to yourself and say "Quit that!" and direct your concentration/thoughts to something unrelated, and preferably pleasant.

I suggest that you choose a topic to think about that is unrelated to the cancer situation. Using the cancer situation reinforces the natural inclination to create rosy scenarios where a complete cure is the next event, and that inevitably leads to strong attachment to that outcome.

We all wish for that, but attachment to it sets you up for greater suffering if that is not the outcome that life and reality hand you. Leave that one alone and just do all you can do and then see how things go.

You may have difficulty with this at first, but do it. It is a technique for self-programming you mind to avoid unnecessary suffering. This business comes with all the suffering you will ever want, so don't add to your burden with more that is unnecessary and avoidable.

The technique will work, and will become second nature after a short while and will help you all through out your life, as well.