Chris, I am very sorry to hear about your diagnosis, that's awful news to be hit with.

A very effective way to get through this is to understand that all your life, up to this moment, is in the past, and with this moment, you begin another life from scratch.

As one of the first things you do in this new life should be to get a second opinion, you may well find that there are other options. But...

As part of this, try not to attach to any particular outcome and you will not be disappointed, no matter what you hear, it is simply a description of a change in your life. I know you may think that this is easier to say than to do; but it's not. It's your mind, take control of it.

One of the ways to do this is to stop thinking of outcomes as either "good" or "bad' and see them as simply outcomes. Life is what it is; it's not what we want it to be, and it's not what we don't want it to be, it's simply what it is.

Thinking about what was lost serves no useful purpose. None. There is always something left as long as you draw breath.

Think in terms of "what do I have left, and how can I use it to make my life better?"

If you'd like to pursue this, contact me by PM so we don't clutter this thread.

I have a closet full of those BTDT T-shirts.