thank you all for your input. i've had to put my nurse ratchet hat on to try and get him to consume those calories. some days it works other days not so much. i'm frustrated and scared and mad all at the same time. his cancer is not due to HPV but to smoking and drinking jack daniels for 45 plus years. He's FINALLY quit smoking altogether and that in itself was a hard thing for him to do. i'll be on later today and i'll chat more then. thank you so much.