Robin, welcome to OCF! Im very sorry to hear about your husbands recurrence. Of course he is upset, anyone would be. The bad part is this will only get harder as time goes on. Its a very long road ahead.

You certainly have your hands full. At some point you might have to put on your nurse hat from heck and get your husband to face reality. This is no walk in the park and he must get onboard and help with things he has control over (his intake and attitude). I would start by asking at his treatment center if there is any therapists available who work with the cancer patients. OC patients have a high rate of depression, many take anxiety meds. Even some caregivers do as well. Its not easy and its ok to rely on temporary help to get thru it. Whatever works to make it easier is what is necessary.

Your husband MUST take in a minimum of 2500 calories and 48 oz of water every single day. This needs to become the norm and continue for at least the first year after he finishes the treatments. Recovery can be a long process where his nutrition and hydration will play a role in how he progresses. That is also what will make or break him during treatments. Pick up some Boost very high calorie drinks and have him include a couple every day to help push his calories intake higher. Believe it or not he could even take in 3500 or 4000 calories daily and it wouldnt be too much, he probably wouldnt even gain a pound. He is still recovering from his first round of OC so his body burns calories at an amazing rate. This is what is within his control so this is what your husband needs to focus on, not what he cant change.

Stick with us and we will help you both get thru this.