Hello Roger, I know too well how shattering a recurrence diagnosis is. I want to tell you that you will get through this and that you will be ok.
My Husband Kris is 21 months post his total Glossectomy / total laryngectomy.
Kris is doing very well, as will you. I'm not sure exactly what you want to know about life after this surgery, however I will tell you that you will eat and you will talk.
If you have specific queries please ask and I will try to answer them.
Just know that your life will still be good and bring you a lot of joy. It takes time to adapt to your new "normal" , but you will get there.
Tammy